From Stupid...to Stupider.

[xxshaelxx]

So, Adam is the one that wants this divorce, right? I tell him he needs to go down to the courthouse to do it to make sure he doesn't mess it up. So what does he do? Picks up the papers, fills them out at home, and messes them up. He put HIMSELF down as the Defendant. HELLO, I'm the Defendant, considering YOU'RE the one that wanted this divorce. I'm not letting this come back and bite me in the a$$ because he's stupid. Not only that, but he agreed to send me $100 a month at least to help out with my bills, and he signed that he agreed to give me no Alimony. Uuuuummmm...YOU AGREED TO IT! -.- Just tells me that he's broke as a joke already from buying crap for his guns and/or new guns and/or stuff he doesn't need. BUT, I'm the one that has all kinds of assets that I have to worry about. Maybe I'll just take him to court on it? Because, from what I told, since I assumed the $103,000 debt that is the house, I can get alimony from him, because it's such a large amount, even if I did sign a paper stating I get the house.

I just can't believe he seriously put himself down as the Defendant. Yeah, no. Not happening.

[k9capture_16]

This is exactly why I have no desire to marry, common law..nothing. I would sue his a$$ off in court.

[wags]

HMMMMM! Are you sure he's not playing you? He seems to be then getting help with his decisions! I wonder if hes just trying to act stupid!

[RawFedDogs]

You're not showing yourself to be a lot smarter. All I see you do is whine about how he is acting and not doing anything constructive yourself. If you divorce him, you need a lawyer. Go ahead and get one and get things started. You really don't know where you stand legally about alimony, the house, loans, possessions, etc. He obviously has no motivation to do anything. Why should he?

[CorgiPaws]

I hate to have to agree with RFD at this point.
But I'm sure it's just the way it comes across because we only see the angry venting, and nothing else.

Divorce sucks. It's a fact of life. But this too, shall pass.

[xxshaelxx]

Actually, I don't need a lawyer unless I want something that he's not going to give me. It's all in the divorce paperwork that I read over before doing anything. If he decides not to put the alimony in the divorce papers, I won't sign, and I WILL get a lawyer, because I do know that since I'm taking the responsibility for the house (and I have a signed and notarized document stating he's giving up his rights to the house), I can easily get alimony, because I'm taking on the biggest liability of this marriage. I talked to a mortgage consultant about it already, and she's seen this kind of thing about a hundred times, and that's what she told me. Consequently, she also told me that he's LUCKY I took on this responsibility, because it is such a huge liability, and I can't just sell the house, so even the fact that he gave up the $10,000 to me still doesn't mean I can't take him for a butt ton of alimony, because I can get up to half the amount of my monthly mortgage payment from him.

Also, he's pretty much given me everything that I want (including the fact that he's paying for my television, which is $1000), and when I talked to him last night and reminded him about the conversation we had about him giving me $100 a month, he agreed to it. He wasn't exactly nice about it (though neither was I), telling me that he was going to come drop it off here, and I told him I didn't want him at my house, that he could send it through the mail. He goes "I'm not wasting the stamps." I was, like, "WOW! REALLY?!" Then almost laughed myself silly, because it'd cost him $2 (at LEAST) in gas just to drive up here, versus a $.44 stamp.

[Penny & Maggie's Mom]

If you're in a community property state, I would certainly seek counsel. If you have any equity in your house, that would be considered an ASSET not a liability and he would be due half of the equity plus half of any other monies or assets.... no matter what was "yours" or "his" prior to marriage. Until it is finalized in court, he can still come back and claim half of the marriage's assets no matter what he's promisedto you.

Also, if you are employed and have no children, alimony might not be in the cards.