Wanna hear something really funny?

[xxshaelxx]

Okay, so Adam moved out at the end of last month, right? Well, apparently he's doing everything he can think of to spite me.

He shaved his head, bought two new guns, ate at Taco Bell (I boycott them because some of their commercials have royally peeved me), and claimed to want to f*** some of his coworkers, all before he left, right?

Well, he's going around behind my back trying to turn all of my friends against me by telling them that I'm the monster, and I did everything to ruin our relationship. His mother trash talks me, apparently (that pisses me off, because I'd just like to punch her in the f***ing mouth). He called up an ex-friend of mine who really stabbed me in the back hardcore whom I really, really, really can't stand, who he NEVER liked, ALWAYS complained about, ALWAYS hated, to ask her to go shooting with him. SAY WHAT?! Yeah. Then he goes up to my parents' house to "pick up clay pigeons." They cost, what, $10 at Walmart? He left them up there TWO years ago. Not two WEEKS ago. Two YEARS. THAT peeved me off SOOOOO bad, because I seriously thought my dad was doing something for him or with him or whatever. But still, he should NOT be at MY parents' house, no matter WHAT. So anyways, he also called up ANOTHER one of my CURRENT friends today. Funny thing is, this is ANOTHER friend he always complained about and never really liked. AND this was RIGHT after he had gotten off the phone with another friend we have in common who had told him straight UP that he could NOT go to my parents' house, because those are MY parents, not his. How do I know this was right after? Because I was talking to HER on the phone, because she called to tell me she had JUST talked to him.

REALLY?! What a way to make yourself look like an A$$, Adam.

hahahahahahaha.

So yeah, the only things that really peeve me are the fact that he was at my parents' house (and our friend DID tell him PREVIOUS to this that he couldn't go up there and think everything is all cool), and the fact that his mother is talking smack about me. Everything else I find hilarious. I find it even funnier that my dad thinks he's as stupid as I think he is, because he goes up there flaunting his new gun that he traded one of the guns he just bought for. I thought I was exaggerating when I told people that he has an IQ of 40. Guess I need to exaggerate some more. *cough*

[whiteleo]

Go ahead and vent, but it is all pretty childish behavior on his part.

[CorgiPaws]

Yeah, I agree: pretty childish on his part.

I wouldn't even concern yourself with anything he does. If he likes guns, let him buy guns. if he likes Taco bell (which I am now craving like mad... mmmm, Taco Bell) let him eat what he wants. If he wants to go to your parents house, leave it up to your parents to tell him otherwise; it's their property. Set yourself free from him, because as long as you allow yourself to be concerned with his doings, it'll never be over. Not really.

Sorry divorce sucks. Sorry your ex sucks. But at least you have DFC, right?

[xxshaelxx]

haha. Totally, Corgi!

And yes, totally childish.

My mother straight up told me that she doesn't want him over there. I don't want him over there for other reasons, because I'm REALLY self-conscious about even little tiny things like that, because they make me think that maybe my parents are taking his side, and blah, blah, blah. But yeah, my mum called as I was leaving the house, and I go "Why the F*** is Adam here?!" She had NOOOO idea, and when I told her that I pulled up and his car was in the driveway, she got soooooo mad and goes "I don't want him there! He needs to leave!"

But yeah, everything else, I just think is funny. He's just making himself look sooooooooooo stupid.

Today, I texted him asking when he was gonna get the paperwork started for the divorce, because this is getting ridiculous, so he texts me later going "I need your social security and drivers license numbers." I was, like, "um....no." So I asked him if he was filling out my portion, and he text back saying he's doing it online. Again, I was, like, "Um....no." So I told him he needed to go down to the courthouse and take care of that crap, because I didn't want him screwing it up and I definitely didn't want him having my social security or drivers license numbers! Not with all the spiteful things he's done already. I mean, sure, go out and do whatever the heck you wanna do, but I don't want to get involved with it. Which is also why I want him to take care of these papers, because any debt he may rack up in the time it takes to sign all these papers and officially separate, I could be liable for, too! And I know how stupid he is with money.

Check this out! While we were together, we rarely had any money to put back into savings or to put towards the credit cards. With him gone, I ALREADY have an extra $400 to put towards the two, AND it's only halfway through the month! AND I've been living it up pretty well. hahaha.

[wags]

Your EX is how old? His immaturity reeks with what you have said WOW! And his mommy backs him up how sad! Well its all in the family with that guy! Aren't you so happy you got away before marriage and all! No grief on your part that way! He needs to man up and face that its a two way street. He needs to apologize for his unmanly immaturity! Sorry to hear this is what you were dealing with! UGH!

[StdPoo Dad]

Maybe I missed something, but I need to ask a question. Why are you waiting for *him* to start the paperwork for the divorce?

Today, I texted him asking when he was gonna get the paperwork started for the divorce,

[xxshaelxx]

Maybe I missed something, but I need to ask a question. Why are you waiting for *him* to start the paperwork for the divorce?

Several reasons. First and foremost because I want HIM to pay for it, because I tried to do everything in my power to STOP this divorce.

And then there's the fact that I've done EVERYTHING else, like calling places to get his name taken off the bills, going to see about getting the house in my name, and that's the ONE thing he should be doing, and hasn't.

[t0nnn]

Sounds like he probably won't do it anytime soon. So if you want to get it done, you should probably just go ahead and start that paperwork as well...

[MollyWoppy]

It most certainly sounds like he needs to just grow up. And, he sure knows how to push your buttons.
If I were you, and if you are positive your marriage can't be saved (there sounds like there is still a lot of feelings there, a lot of hurt, but still feelings) then I would take the high road. Just pay for the divorce, make a real effort to put him out of your mind and move on. You don't need him or the drama's he creates in your life.
Like corgi said, you can not control what he does or what he says, but you can control how you react.
You can trust your parents, fullstop. Friends, if they know you well enough will always be there for you, if they aren't then you don't need them in your life. If you can, (although its probably a bit too soon for this as you need to go through the grieving process), accept its over and detach yourself emotionally from the situation. See if you have a friend who is very logical, who is not afraid to tell you to pull your head in, use her/him to confide in. They may not tell you what you want to hear, but they will tell you what you need to hear, if you know what I mean.
I feel so sorry for you, its heartbreaking to battle someone who you loved so much not so long ago.

[xxshaelxx]

haha. Actually, after he told me he wanted to f*** some of his coworkers, and after he spent $1000 on guns, I was totally over him and definitely DON'T want to be with him anymore. There have been misgivings between us for a looooooong time, and sometimes I wonder if I continued to stay with him for the fact that I didn't think I could pay the bills by myself, but I can, and I'm a lot more comfortable now with living alone than I ever was when I was with him. I'm also doing better on the bills. I'm a LOT happier not having to deal with him at all. Takes a lot of stress out of life. haha.

For everything he's doing, the only thing that really bugged me was the fact that he was at my parents' house. Other than that, everything he does makes me want to laugh hysterically, because it just proves HOW stupid he is.