In a rut...where to go

[stajbs]

RE..I know he calls it the EL, but I didn't know if it was the EL or the L...muahaha so that's why I called it what I did. He says when he was a kid it was a great neighborhood, but then we're talking the man is 60+ now so that was over 50 years ago. We've been married forever and we hardly ever go there anymore. We used to go down quite often and always got on the EL at Erie and Torresdale. I remember our first trip that way. He says to me "stick close and do what I do." Okay no problemo man, but then we sit down and I am staring at a man with a rug/toupe that is auburn, and sitting slightly askew on his head, and he had black side burns and a black beard. Thought I was gonna choke to death trying not to laugh, but then also felt bad because I suspect the man was homeless. Then another trek on the EL, and we are sitting there and suddenly smell and see smoke. There was an electrical fire in the compartment we were in. Nice RE, really nice...I'm a small town girl, living in the country learning to tote a shotgun. I do however enjoy trips to the city once in a while. I did enjoy a trek down to South Street a few years ago.

Meggels, maybe write down your options and your geographic areas of interest, then do the pros and cons of each. Then see if you can research it some on the internet, and if at all possible visit to be sure you will like it.

[magicre]

RE..I know he calls it the EL, but I didn't know if it was the EL or the L...muahaha so that's why I called it what I did. He says when he was a kid it was a great neighborhood, but then we're talking the man is 60+ now so that was over 50 years ago. We've been married forever and we hardly ever go there anymore. We used to go down quite often and always got on the EL at Erie and Torresdale. I remember our first trip that way. He says to me "stick close and do what I do." Okay no problemo man, but then we sit down and I am staring at a man with a rug/toupe that is auburn, and sitting slightly askew on his head, and he had black side burns and a black beard. Thought I was gonna choke to death trying not to laugh, but then also felt bad because I suspect the man was homeless. Then another trek on the EL, and we are sitting there and suddenly smell and see smoke. There was an electrical fire in the compartment we were in. Nice RE, really nice...I'm a small town girl, living in the country learning to tote a shotgun. I do however enjoy trips to the city once in a while. I did enjoy a trek down to South Street a few years ago.

Meggel, maybe write down your options and your geographic areas of interest, then do the pros and cons of each. Then see if you can research it some on the internet, and if at all possible visit to be sure you will like it.

ah, we could always tell who the tourists were....good times :)

meggels.....that's a great idea...google areas of interest that you'd like to visit.

i picked seattle as i had been here before.....i had also been in colorado springs, denver, boulder in colorado and san francisco in cali and portland in oregon...
i think i've visited every region in the country and when i was planning to get out of dodge....i drew on those experiences to choose where i wanted to go...

course, meeting honey and him living in seattle made the decision easier, but i know not to live in the southwest, too hot....love texas, hate the heat...
love new england and would go back to retire.....love new york and washington d.c.

hate the midwest, sorry midwest people....can't handle extreme weather and flat country...

love mountains and oceans....

but, before i hurt any more feelings....and ruffle feathers.....do some research....do a google search for the best cities with jobs.....in communications, since that's what your degree is in....

or do a search for the weather you'd like....stay away from the depressed areas for now....because housing will be cheap but jobs are almost non existent..

make it fun....because there is a reason you want to move on....figure out what that reason is, make sure it's legitimate and not something you're running away from...mainly because you have to go with you, ya know? :)

[meggels]

I need to figure out what to do. I mean HONESTLY, right now, just finding a full time job that pays bills would be FABULOUS lol. Even just a secretarial job or something. Getting an income is most important int his very moment. I'm sure that's the case for so many.


My ultimate dream is to own a dog food store (well, cats too) that sells the premium foods, with of course, some treats, toys, collars, etc.


I applied to a job as a production assistant on the Jerry Springer Show last night (LOL, trashy ftw). It's down in Fairfield County CT which is where the NYC suburbs are. A lot of companies have moved out of NYC into that area for cheaper rents and such. It might mean eventually moving down that way (about 1-1.5 hrs south), which would suck in terms of finances (So expensive and clogged with traffic and people). But, who knows, we'll see what happens!


Some people on another forum (non pet related) told me that having two dogs is holding me back from finding a job. Uh, my dogs are not an option. I will take a job that has nothing to do with my career, that I don't love for the time being, and keep my dogs. It's non negotiable. Some people don't get it, but to me...it's seriously not even a question...

[xellil]

Why on earth would your dogs hold you back from getting a job? Unless your pets make you stupid, I truly don't see the connection.

Shoot, alot of places I've worked no one even knew I had dogs. Or, maybe one or two did. But it's really none of their business, and certainly shouldn't make a difference.

Unless you are on some kind of job board and all you talk about is your dogs?

[meggels]

Wht he said:

Having two dogs means you have responsibilities at home and you can't be gone for long hours. In other words, no overtime. When you are young you do need to put in extra hours to get a good reputation and advancements.

You would also need be reasonably close to where you live so you can feed and let the dogs out. Commuting to Stamford, New Haven or even Hartford would be difficult but that is where the jobs most likely are.

Finding an apartment will be harder because many apartments don't even want one dog let alone two. Again I am just trying to let you know what to expect. Jay




Appreciate his point of view, but like I said in my final response to him, it's not even an option :) The dogs stay. Even if it means I become a secretary for the rest of my life in rural Connecticut ;) I think Abbie would be a wreck in a high traffic/noisy/urban area. She hates cars, sounds, ambulances, etc. I realized my senior year of college, after having her for a few months and getting a better glimpse at her personality, this would probably really effect where I live. She's my girl, I'm not going to make her miserable, and I'm not going to give her up so I can go move to NYC. Probably makes me crazy, but idc.

[xellil]

that is the silliest thing I've ever heard. Like no one ever was successful at a job if they had dogs. What if it were human children? Oh wait - I think we worked that one out several years ago. They kinda need to be fed also.

Spoken like a self-centered, pompous prick who never had a responsibility outside work in his life. Or a slave wife who stays home and does all that stuff.

Oh, I think the city would not be good to Rebel either. That's what commuting is for :)

[mischiefgrrl]

I know what you're going through with needing a change. I'm in the same industry and have moved more times than I care to admit over the course of the past 20 years. I also did it as a single mom with pets and while I had that responsibility, I was able to "pay my dues" and work all of the long hours while taking care of my kid and pets. When you're young, you don't even think about it - you just do it. You'll get creative on how to balance it all.

Good luck to you!

[Caty M]

Jerry Springer is awesome.. I want some Jerry beads. Though I do think it lowers your IQ at a rate of 5 points/hr watching it. What does a production assistant DO?

I can kind of see where the person is coming from with dogs in a way- it does hold you back from some things, or force you to make other arrangements. Everything in life though is a compromise and I feel that the love and joy you get from owning pets more than makes up for the minor inconveniences.

I also kind of looked into the high end pet store/boutique but the market is very over-saturated here. Pet store every 3 minute drive kind of thing. No idea about in New England though.