just wanted to air my frustrations

[xchairity_casex]

So my sister who is 27 years old thru a fit to get a poodle 2 years ago refused my advice about looking for a good breeder as she wanted one "NOW" so she spent 500 dollars on a mini poodle puppy named kira who by the age of only 4 months had bad knees (pop out whenever she would run around)
well i tried to do most of her training i was the one who took her for walks and i was the one who would take her swimming for her knees.
i would lay down rules and my sister and her son would break them telling me "its my dog not yours" i even would try teaching Kira cute little tricks only to have my sister step in and say "no i dont like that its dumb"
so kira has always been allowed to mual people who vist,mual dogs she meets,bark and yap at other animals,chase the cats and generally do what she pleases.
shes incredabley smart and i truley belive she was bred to be extra high energy for agility as she could deff be matched to 12 border collies on speed and win in the energy department.
ive always tried my best to excersize her the best i could getting her 4 hours a day off lead running time she was annoying but manageable i would only have to ask her to do somthing 10 times before she would do it.

well my sister moved out and wanted ME to take care of kira alright no problem i decided well it has gotten to be a problem a very BIG problem....
my sister keeps visting becuase i am also takeing care of her 8 year old son. well she comes with her boyfreind and they get Kira all riled up and bouncing off the walls and yelling at cesar for even moving (her bf is terrafied of Cesar) so Kira has now suddenly so insane and some very bad problems have begun popping up this past 2 weeks.
shes chaseing my cats...BAD they cant move without her jumping them
shes begun eatting cesar poop begging to go out as soon as Cesar comes back inside
running off while off lead and chaseing down other dogs and people to bark at
ignoreing all the commands i give her
trash picking HORRABLY shes refusing to eat dog food to raid the trash
guarding toys and ignoreing her own toys to steal Cesars if i give her a treat then Cesar a treat she will ignore hers to try taking his.

im trying everything i can ive tried putting her on the treadmill also but even 6 hours a day is NOT ENOUGH for her! Cesar is perfect for me after 2 hours hes good hes relaxed and chill her i cannot keep up with her! im trying everything i can but after 4 hours of excersize then 3 hours of mental stimulation i try to sit down and relax after ive worked then come home to help with my nephew im exhuasted!
and that dang dog starts in chaseing the cats,garbage picking,barking incessintly she does too now that my sister has been visting allowing her to dow hatever she wants shes begun to bark at everything shes never been a big barker but now i leave the room and its "BARK BARK BARK BARK BAREK" if you try to stop her she runs and hides ive tried keeping a lead on her doesnt work!

i dont know WHATS going on with her but i cant take it anymore and my sister doesnt want to take her! im at my wits end here! im almost tempted to find her a new home i love her shes a doll and silly as can be but lord almighty i dont have time to entertain a dog for 12 hours a day! though i try im just failing horrably at it
and my sister comes in i say "dontl et her jump up on you" and my sister says "its my dog" and gets her going. i say "then take her with you if its your dog" and she whines at my mom "mom im too busy to take her now please take care of my baby!"

seriously what should i do here?

[Dude and Bucks Mamma]

Personally, I would tell her, "Either you take this dog back and take care of her since she IS your dog or I find a new home for her. She is no longer welcome here because you encourage bad behaviour when you are here."

I wouldn't be able to handle that. For me, if someone's dog is staying with me it's, "My house, my rules." Obviously I would respect someone's rules for their own dog such as not being allowed to have something or not being allowed to do something but my rules would apply everywhere else. I would not tolerate her coming over and yelling at MY dog. Cesar should honestly come before your sister and her bf. Cesar lives there. Your sister's bf doesn't. If he is afraid of your dog he shouldn't be coming over to your house.

Get rid of the dog if she refuses to take him back. What does she think the rest of the world does when they are busy? We don't get rid of OUR dogs.

[xchairity_casex]

shes alawys done this sh*t to me she begs and screams for a pet my mom gets it for her 3 days in "i dont want it i want this instead here you take it" iveended up taking care of 12 dogs,2 cats, countless hamsters,birds,fish and 14 rats,2 rabbits,a ferret,and a guinea pig that way.
i just hate the thought of poor kira having to find a new home becuase of this but i really do not have the time or energy for this dog not if i want to keep working.

i worked very hard on this little dog the past two years trying trying to turn her into a well mannerd dog unlike my sisters other dogs i tried to teach Kira to walk on a loose lead but then my sister would let her son take her for a walk and i would try insturcting him how to make her walk on a loose lead by simply shortening the slack my sister thru a fit i tried teaching Kira not to bolt out open doors when she was a puppy becuase she would run out to greet people then go crazy running all over the yard till we had to catch her my sister found out and would pick Kira up or call her to her everytiem she would see my working with her and yell at me "its my dog thats stupid"

[Liz]

I have three younger sisters. They did a lot of this growing up. I don't play anymore. As hard as it sounds until she has consequences she will remain a spoiled child. I would give her back the dog asap and let her deal with her problem. You will be helping her although she and your momeill probably give you a hard time. I know the dog pays but unless you plan to rescue her forever I would stop it now. Jmho

[xchairity_casex]

it saddens me to say the past 5 or 6 years i have tried not dealing with it ive let several hamsters,fish and birds die for her to see it was her own fault from neglect. the last pet before kira was a guinea pig she kept his cage in her bathroom all summer near the window with no screen his cage was filthy and he had maggots in his fur due to all the flys i took him and gave him to a rescue where i told the women who ran it the whole story right in front of my sister who was to embarressed to say a word the women also was embarressed and didnt know what to say since my sister was right there and she was a nice lady to nice to say anything mean. i had hoped my sister had learned her lesson...guess not

[Liz]

I really, really understand. My sisters seem stuck at about 16 years old in some areas of their lives. It is really hard but she has to be held accountable. If you are truly worried for a pup I would personally place her or give her to a rescue if your sister is not going to take responsibility. At least you will know you tried your best, but I would definately stay out of the middle in the future. I am sorry you have to go through this. You always feel like the bad one even though you are just being responsible and it is hard to see an animal suffer.

[SpooOwner]

I have a family member who adopts a new dog every year or so, does nothing to train or socialize the dog, confines it to a small space (a bathroom, the yard), and after a few months turns the dog over to a shelter. It upsets everyone else in my family (even her husband), but there is nothing we can do to change her behavior. She just doesn't care. It hurts so much. We've tried buying obedience lessons as birthday/holiday gifts, toys for the dog, etc., but the fundamental problem is that she doesn't value the dog. We can't change that.

As a poodle lover, it also pains me that so many poodles come out of puppy mills - puppy mills are, of course, inherently terrible, but I also hate that the image of the breed is so distorted by these breeding practices. Small poodles (minis and toys) are especially subject to puppy mills, but standard poodles suffer the consequences of the images these puppy mill dogs create. I'm always surprised to hear someone say they don't like Poodles, but they like other hunting breeds - Viszlas, Weims, Spaniels, Pointers, etc. - because these are the breeds most similar to Poodles. Poodles - large or small - should not be yappy, ill-tempered, or high-strung. These are not traits of poodles. These are traits of puppy mill dogs of any breed. OK, off my soap box. Back to regularly scheduled programming ....

[brandypup]

Ok first lots of hugs. Family can be some of the worse culprates! But they are still family.

In any case I think you are still the perfect home for her. you understand her needs and you can help her be the dog she is supposed to be. What *I* would do honestly is ban your sister from seeing her. Ban anyone who isn't on your page now to see her. You can tell them she is in trianing and not allowed to interact with people who do not support her trianing and well being. I woudl also chip her in my name so if she demanded her back I would also make her pay for your time holding and trianing her. (if giving back to her is something to do it sounds awful no offense)

If you honeslty can not take any more then find a rescue to help place her in a home that can.

But them I am outside looking on and can be a hard arse. I am not in yoru shoes. Good luck in your descions.

[nupe]

I am also just looking from the outside in....but with that said ...People only do what you allow them to do!!....I say if you are really at your wits in, find another home for the dog. What can your sister really do if she is not caring for the dog?? NOTHING BUT WHINE ABOUT IT!!

[Noodlesmadison]

it saddens me to say the past 5 or 6 years i have tried not dealing with it ive let several hamsters,fish and birds die for her to see it was her own fault from neglect.

Wow... I don't even know what to say to this.
You don't punish animals by letting them suffer and die just to teach somebody a lesson.